Don't get your knickers in a knot. Nothing is solved and it just makes you walk funny. ~Kathryn Carpenter

I've asked myself this question often over the past 4 years, "Is this a hill I want to die on?" There are many slights, many offeneses, many rubs, many disagreements, many wrongs that are commited daily. They get my hackles up, so to speak. But in the midst of all that is wrong, I ask myself, "Is this a hill I want to die on?" and the answer more often than not is "No, no it's not. It isn't worth it."

Take today for instance. Only a few people within our church have a code to enter the building. Only staff have keys. There have been issues in the past with vandalism, doors being left open or unlocked. We're trying to be good stewards of God's house.

But, there is one person who receives the code and is told over and over and over not to share it with anybody, yet consistently does. To her children. To her co-workers. To her parents. It makes securing an already-difficult-building-to-secure, even more difficult. With a look of confusion on my face as two people who I rarely see in the building, enter through this particular door, I ask myself, "Is this a hill I want to die on?" When all I want to say is, "That's it. No code for you!" I realize it just isn't worth it.

There are some hills I'm willing to battle. When it's a continuous string of slights, a continuous string of offenses, a continuous string of wrongs, I have the cajones to say, "Stop. This isn't right" when it really matters. If I believe strongly that what I'll say will make a difference, you bet, I'll speak up. And sometimes, even if I know what I say won't make a bit of difference. I'm just not afraid to tell people my opinion.

So, what's your Stop&Think phrase or action that keeps you from spouting off every angry thing you have in your head? I could use a new one. I'm a little tired of the "This isn't a hill I want to die on" phrase.